This freedom allowed me to finally be honest with myself about what I was looking for.
It always felt like starting all over and was always painful.
Once I even continued to date a girl just to avoid “starting over”.
Once I relaxed, I felt much better about the impressions I was leaving.
Even when things didn’t work out and my date was not interested in seeing me again, at least I knew we just weren’t a match instead of wondering if I had only done “better” would she have liked me? Improved Odds If you believe that you can get along with out there then dating few people could work for you.
On one occasion when things were going very poorly, instead of stressing out, I told my date I didn’t think we were a great match but that we could still have fun over dinner.
She seemed relieved and agreed to try to enjoy the dinner.
As the stress began to lessen, I started representing who I was much better.
Early on I was always in a panic-mode: trying to make sure everything went perfect on every date, overly concerned about the happiness of my date, worried about the impression I was making and so on.
I would continue to date someone negative or rude or conceited and would just hope that things would just eventually “work themselves out”.
All this changed when my dating schedule became very active.
When I first started online dating, I had this notion that dating more than one person simultaneously would somehow be insincere. There were times where I would end up talking to a few girls at once but this was always accidental.