In the end I gave-up and went to the browse option, but even there you still have several links to click on like area and town before you eventually get to see profiles.
However what I would say is that most of “the profiles” on there do seem genuine and to have real, ordinary people behind them (you don’t get the feeling of it being packed with model-like airbrushed photos).
Like a lot of other “adult oriented sites”, most of the males on there create free accounts and act like “horny teenage boys”, trying to get laid.
So, because there’s a demand for it, married dating services do exist.
Though the sites may not encourage members to cheat on their partners, they do assist those who wish to do so, and have become very successful in the process.
Upgrading will significantly increase your chances, because unlike the vast majority of men on there who’re trying to “get laid for free”, you have the option to use “open the door” to chat with hot females (who men on free accounts can’t reach). You can place your content (either photos, or videos) into private folders and then, on those you can set your desired access. There just isn’t the same level of privacy options as are available on the two sites above.
In my experience most attractive women will not upgrade – they will just wait for VIP men to contact them. Anyone in your friends list can see your private photos. I found Gleeden to be a bit less active than the other sites, the group areas were often empty and I only got replies to a couple of the emails I sent out.
As the one who’s waiting for sex (doing the noble thing), the fact that your girlfriend/boyfriend has had sex before with one or more people may start to really piss you off.
In a way, it feels like they cheated on you (and you can’t get it out of your head).
If you can rise above those losers (and let’s face it that doesn’t take much), and show women you are willing to offer them something they couldn’t get in 5 minutes at their local bar, you’ll be on to a winner.