not to mention helping build up some endurance so that you don’t fear being a two-pump chump.Similarly, women benefit from familiarity with themselves.
In fact, some “killer” sex techniques (especially any recommended by Cosmo) will more likely get you thrown out of bed instead of being hailed as a godly lover.
first sexual encounter tends to be awkward; you’re dealing with a relative stranger, with his or her own preferences, turn-ons and deal-breakers. One person’s patented oral technique may deliver screaming orgasms with one partner and set another’s skin to crawling. I’ve lost track of how many people I’ve known who thought they were God’s own cocksmen, but whose girlfriends would later confide that they faked their orgasms.
Side note: This, by the way, is a very heteronormative definition of virginity; anal sex evidently does not “count” for women… And yet many gay men inexperienced; the ones who have had next to no sexual contact whatsoever, whether it be kissing, playing with another person’s junk, dry-humping or even having someone acknowledge one’s erection without pointing and laughter. This is one of the aspects that trips up many virgins.
They assume that because they haven’t had the all-important First Time that they’re going to be crap in bed…
This is one reason why I advise guys to invest in a masturbation sleeve like a Fleshlight or a Tenga – it’s a great way to ensure that you don’t train yourself to learn the wrong lessons (as it were) from solo sex.
They’re also much closer to the feel of sex with another person – helping familiarize yourself with your own orgasm response during penetrative sex…Small wonder that being a virgin can be such a source of angst to men And yet one can be a virgin who has had considerably more sexual activity than their contemporaries.In modern western society, “sex” almost always equates to “penetrative sex”.It only “counts” when the penis has managed to ejaculate into a vagina.One can thus be a virgin and yet give the most amazing head a person could ever receive. The first step to great sex – whether you’ve had hundreds of partners or partners – is to understand that there’s more to sex than Tab A into Slot B, Repeat As Needed.never stopping to think that having had sex isn’t going to magically make you into a black-belt Fuck-Fu master and Kama Sutra scholar.