The other day I learned that he put up an online dating profile- wth?!
I am still going through the phases of our breakup and I can’t even fathom the idea of meeting and talking to a new guy right now. here you are feeling all this pain, heartbreak and sadness…
and he’s just trying to distract himself from the pain because he really, truly does not know any other way to dull the piercing pain he feels in his heart right now? How do you know that he doesn’t feel completely wretched about himself right now? The only thing you can know is your feelings at this moment.
How do you know that, as he’s looking for other women, that his mind and heart won’t scream, “You’ll never find another woman better than the one you had… The truth is, the way you’re looking at it right now is causing you to feel bad.
“We went out with a couple who had been together a long time, we were trying to rush the intimacy,” Schumer continued.
“Like I was trying to impress the girl and I was like ‘Well he woke me up this morning with a fart!
You need to listen to your feelings and let them be your guide.
Follow what feels happy, fulfilling, and puts you at ease. (By intoxicating I mean that it might feel irresistible to feed into in the moment, but you makes things worse.) Instead of resisting total acceptance and being OK with it, resist your urge to judge the situation.
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and if you listen to what you’re feelings are trying to show you, you’ll end up in a better place than you’ve ever been in your whole life.
It can feel like he’s disrespecting the time you had together because he’s not miserable, depressed, and holed up hidden away from the world. Guys do not handle negative emotions well and will fight very hard to stay in a place of contentedness.