We interviewed the founders of Ok Cupid, one of the most successful online dating sites, for a chapter on “How to Find Love Online” in our book “The Art of Doing.” Although the founders claim no lothario-like superpowers—based on their teeming mass of statistical data and observational evidence they can advise us on how to find someone online who will love us for who we really are.Many people believe that when seeking a partner online they should try to appeal to the largest possible pool of people.This may sound like a sensible romantic strategy—why eliminate possible partners by revealing the scar on one side of your face or the fact that you’re obsessed with Star Wars kitsch?
Regardless of our education and socioeconomic status, each of us has one same desire: to find true love.
We would like to have someone around who will love us in spite of all our imperfections, and who will desire to build memories with us.
Here I was a single, athletic, educated employed mid 30 something man looking to get back into the dating pool and at best of 50 emails I would send out to 50 different women who I "matched" well with I would at best get 2 back.
And I do have to admit at first my profile was very honest and very much me.
By contrast, it is significantly more difficult for men to get their foot in the door, so it makes sense for them to try appealing to a much wider net.
When I started dating after my divorce at the age of 34 i was amazed of the rejection rates.On the Internet, there is a lot of advice about where to go to meet people, what to say in conversation, and how and with whom to flirt.Contrary to popular belief, lots of people find love online.The person we choose to love and be connected to for the rest of our life is the single most important decision we could ever make.So take your time, and ensure you are a person who will attract love when it comes on your way.Sam Yagan, a co-founder of OKCupid described how he has seen this mindset play out time and again.