They’re a square peg trying to fit into a round hole; you might be able to wedge it in there, but it sure as hell isn’t going to be a good fit.
Monogamy just means you choose not to have sex with other people, not that you don’t Some people are very good at monogamy and never experience a moment’s hesitation or temptation.
Other people are very bad at it and inevitably cheat on their partner – even when they have the best of intentions.
And like adventure games of old, if you don’t address it in the beginning, it can often be too late to fix things. Our sexual education system is at best a glorified anatomy lesson; at worst, it’s a collection of lies and deliberate misinformation designed to (theoretically) keep children from having sex ever.
We tell women to be sexis a new and radical concept.
A woman with a high libido, or who wants consensual sex with multiple partners is a slut. A person who wants to indulge in a kink or fetish is a pervert or freak. Relationships are holistic partnerships, with every aspect tied to the others.
People who complain will be told “really, isn’t that just a small thing in comparison to everything else in the relationship? Feeling as though your needs or desires are being neglected or ignored in one area is going to affect the other areas.Isn’t the love or companionship worth more than indulging in footplay or only having sex once every three months? And while it’s easy to simply say “well, that’s the price of entry” to the relationship, a lack of sexual satisfaction isn’t something that can be brushed under the rug.If it’s left unaddressed, it grow and fester, turning from dissatisfaction to bitterness and resentment.Once you’re out of the honeymoon period, then you’re faced with finding out whether there’s really any long-term potential here…and if you’re not sexually compatible, then you’ve got a ticking time-bomb hidden, waiting to blow your relationship apart.There simply isn’t a way to find a compromise that’s going to be satisfying to both partners; the mismatch in their relative horniness is simply going to be a bridge too far.