I’ve talked to lots of gals and guys who hope that the right person will make them feel better about themselves. If you’re hoping that the next relationship will help you deal with your fear or insecurity or past abuse, dating right now is probably not the best thing for you. Relationships can’t completely fill up the holes in our own hearts.
The problem is that going straight from one relationship into another relationship doesn’t give us the time we need for healing and growth.
Know who you are and where you’re at before jumping in!
Understand your value and true worth for yourself before you look for it in someone else.
No human being is capable of meeting our own insatiable needs.
Their next obvious concern is the kinds of questions they should want answered.
There are many things you could ask that would gain you the information you need, but there are ten potent and successful data gathering questions that successfully begin the process of really knowing who someone is.
People who are flexible, confident, and innovative don’t react with anger, pushiness, or attempts to control.
Instead, they will talk about why their request is important to them, or offer to negotiate by giving something in return.
Question Number Three – “If your partner asks you for something you can’t or don’t want to give, do you blame him or her for wanting it from you?
People who tend towards thinking they should automatically provide whatever their partners wants can feel that they are not measuring up if they can’t, or may not want, to provide it.
Because they are deeply intimate inquiries, it is also important that you approach your potential partner from authentic curiosity and a love of mutual exploration.