Experienced internet dater Andrew Gibson, 47, considers himself an expert at recognising the red flags.
"In normal life it has no sexual connotation," says property developer Jason Thomas, 38, who believes the paying sites get more responses than the free ones.
"But if a girl says she's 'up for fun' in a dating profile I immediately assume she’s talking about bed." Appearance is another minefield.
Men who choose harmless words like "stocky" or "well built" are also unwittingly awarding themselves extra layers of blubber.
Even if you’re built like a footballer, or a weightlifter, women may suspect you have a serious Krispy Kreme habit with all the adverse consequences that implies. "Inadvertently, people use clichés which others interpret more cynically," says Cunningham.
Keen to convey he was a bright-eyed male with real get-up-and-go, he used the word "active" in the title of his dating profile. A storm of electronic abuse from the good-looking women he’d been hoping to attract. It turned out that women didn’t like 'active' at all.
"All I wanted to convey was that I didn’t sit around all day doing nothing," says Shaw Stewart. To them it was code for 'highly promiscuous'." The same goes for the word 'fun'.As a matter of fact, that’s usually the joker who can’t rub two nickels together.What’s wrong with the guy in jeans and a T-shirt, driving a Camry, checking his Timex to see exactly when his check is going to hit the bank? Never allow yourself to be impressed by a man’s depreciating assets (cars, clothes, expensive rental apartment). If you’re going to be impressed with material things, at least be smart enough to start with his net worth.RELATED: The 4 mistakes that cost this man his marriage Watch out for men who spend money frivolously.I had a woman tell me how flattered she was when her boyfriend booked her a posh hotel room, filled it from corner to corner with freshly cut roses, and had an expensive dress lying across the bed just as a surprise to show her how much he cared about her.The two were photographed arriving at his brother, Joe‘s, engagement party in New York City on Saturday where they cuddled in a corner.